Creative Gifting

Updated: Sep 1, 2020

There are so many fun and creative ways to give. I can totally admit that I actually love the gift of giving more than the simple act of receiving. Especially when its done without any further expectation (Unless its the joy you feel afterwards of course). I would say that it is the closest form of reciprocity that still exists in the world today. Whether you are showing someone how much you care about them or reflecting the love someone has shown to you, the return on these gestures (no matter how they come) is usually greater than the effort put into them in the first place.



What is Reciprocity?


Reciprocity in the social realm represents the process of exchanging things from one person to another for a mutual benefit without necessarily knowing if or when it will be returned to you. Maybe you needed someone to pull you out of a dark place so you gave your mother a call and she spoke the words necessary to heal your heart at the moment. She will keep you in mind the next time she finds herself in a similar place. You have now unconsciously established a resource option for managing your mental health and so has she. Many of the rules of reciprocity are introduced to us in our upbringing and from those who influence us the most.

"Reciprocity plays an important role in the development and continuation of relationships. It also plays an important role in persuasion or getting others to adopt certain beliefs or behaviors"

For more information about reciprocity and how it relates to you, I strongly encourage you all to read: What is Reciprocity? by Kendra Cherry Click the link below:

https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-the-rule-of-reciprocity-2795891





Reciprocity At Home


The act of being reciprocal is quite difficult when everyday things get taken out of context or constantly compared to something greater or more suitable. (We all find a way of thinking that the grass is greener anywhere but where we are, right!) Wrong. Within one household, various relationships intermingle under one roof. For us we have two sisters, the brother and the sister (times two), the mother to the daughters and son, the father to the son and daughters, and lastly the mother and the father. Each relationship has its special set of rules surrounding reciprocity. How well will my son share his new Black Panther action figures following years of constant failed attempts to play with their "girl dolls"? How willing would dad be to take the kids out for a walk so mom can have some quiet time even after getting put on the back burner night after night due to work overloads? How happy would I (mom) be knowing I had to get up with three children to start the day so dad can sleep in after working late the previous night. We unconsciously consider each other because we are somehow aware that our little break or light at the end of the tunnel is waiting for us just around the corner.


Newspaper and Ribbon Gift Wrap


Tip:

I don't know about your kids, but my children absolutely love ripping open each gift individually as opposed to stuffing it all into one gift bag. This creative ideas does just that AND save you some cash in your pockets. Not to mention it prolongs the joy of having received a gift.





Reciprocity In Marriage


However, the mother and father relationship tends to overrule the husband and wife relationship. And we find ourselves

Here’s how to do it:

  1. Be Genuine

  2. Establish trust

  3. Stay In Touch

  4. Click the 3 dot icon ( ⠇) on the Follow button

  5. Select Set as Write





Reciprocity As It Involves Other Family Members


Things get even cloudier when you include each side of the families family members and associates, i.e. the not so close to you anymore sister, the dead beat cousin, that talkative mother-in-law, or that set of cousins that just don't know no better. The rules to reciprocity change when you take into account the damages these outside influences can have on the civility of your own household. And lets be honest, it is hard enough as is is to remain reciprocal in the correct ways.


Here’s how to do it:

  1. Be Genuine

  2. sh trust

  3. Stay In Touch

  4. Click the 3 dot icon ( ⠇) on the Follow button

  5. Select Set as Write






I saw this opportunity to tune into one of my nieces growing interest in getting her nails done as she advances through her preteen years. She was always using her spending money on fake nails that more than likely ended up in the trash. In addition to introducing new hygiene methods, she is able to practice the responsibility of keeping up with things and putting them away in one designated place.





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